I was talking with my personal coach yesterday. We've been working on some big business goals I have this year, and was feeling a little deflated in that I hadn't progressed as much as I would have like to by now.
Annie (my personal coach) mentioned that it might be a good time to look at where I have come and what were my goals back in early November. Well, to be honest it gave me a it of a shock. Things that were a problem back then wern't even on my radar anymore. I had moved so far past them that I forgot I had even had them in the first place. WOW, wasn't that an eye opener. What I thought was an issue now, would have been seen as unobtainable or not even possible in November. Had I seen my problems now, back in November I would have seen them has huge successes...nuts!
We also looked at my many of my business goals, and what I found that as the business had grown, so had my problems, but in a good way. It wasn't that I didn't have problems, it was that they were much better quality problems, ones that I could solve, and ones that could only have come about by growing to where I was.
She reminded me that we will always have something to solve, something to strive for but in order to grow we need to come up against obstacles, it is necessary to have them otherwise I would just stay where I was in a kind of unsettling comfort.
I realised how much I have come in being aware of my thoughts, and how the tiniest what seems like the quietest thought will always affect my actions. The biggest thing I now practice and am so grateful to have learnt is the ability to be able to choose what thoughts I will give power to through awareness, and what ones I let slide by and move on into the great never never without me giving them the attention they were craving.
Through consciously choosing which thoughts are ultimately serving me, and what thoughts I need to have, to be the person I need to be, to change my outside world, I am able to change how I feel about almost every situation and what action I will take. It is like I am finally learning how to create the world I want to live in as opposed to trying to manage a world I have no control over. Do I get it get it right every time? Hell NO, but even having awareness around when I don't get it right and being OK with that is a HUGE step.
Overall, the biggest takeaway from the last three months of working with my coach, is that in order to grow your outside world, you must first grow your internal world. What successes I achieve are only based on my internal self, and how I choose to respond to almost every situation, both internally and externally. I have the power to choose each and every action I take, and then own those actions.
I don't know anyone who "has it alltogether". In fact the most successful people I have met are constantly working through struggles, pressure and stress to ultimately grow there ability to handle more struggle, pressure and stress. That doesn't mean they are not happy, in fact they are crazy happy because they are so aware that have chosen this path, and knowing that you are choosing to lean into fear, means that you are choosing to lean into success as well.
They are grateful for the stress, it means success to them. They are simply really good at managing it. Not through hiding it, numbing it or ignoring it but bringing awareness to it and being grateful for it.
What a wonderful place to be...
Until next time xxx